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I am all I have. You are all you have. Others can help, but there’s only so far they can go. – Carolyn Hax
How is that for a powerful statement? I have said for a long time that no one can make you happy or sad; it is you who do that. People can do things that make you happy or sad but that is your reaction to what they did, not the action itself. When you let someone hurt you, you have given them that power.
There is an old saying that sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. That is a true and false statement. Often sticks and stones may break bones but words hurt worse than anything.
People can say very hurtful things, sometimes they are right on target and those words hurt so badly and more often than not they are way off target. When people make negative comments about you it usually reflects more of what they are thinking about themselves than what they think about you. Here is a big secret very few people tell you, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BELIEVE OR ACCEPT WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT YOU. Seriously, I am not making that up. I never believe anything negative anyone says about me. I also take most of the positives with a grain of salt.
Be a realist when it comes to who you are. Stop and think, is what that person saying true? If it is fix it, if it isn’t reject it. It IS that simple. Don’t give away your power, only you can make yourself happy. The rest of us are just accessories.


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