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I have been having some really wicked hot flashes. They are noticeable during the day but at night! Holy man it is awful. I have timed them and they come about every 50 minutes. These are not a quick flash and ta-da good to go. No these are full on soaking wet, last a couple minutes hot flashes.

I have done some research and there really isn’t much that can be done. According to the research I can look forward to enjoying this lovely change to my sleeping habits for 4-5 years. Doesn’t that just sound like a fun time to you? Yeah I am just jumping for joy over this turn of events.

I have read that there are drugs you can take but the side effects sound way worse than the hot flashes. I have looked at can trigger them. Coffee, smoking, alcohol, being black, and being overweight make you more susceptible to hot flashes. I don’t drink coffee ever, I rarely drink alcohol anymore, I have never smoked nor been black, that leaves being overweight. I am that but I know thin people who have hot flashes, so I think that is just another way to hammer at a woman’s weight.

Hot flashes are a great way to lose water weight! I know that I can lose more than 2 pounds a night just in sweat. I can’t imagine poor hubby having to sleep next to the pool that is my side of the bed. Poor guy.

Hot flashes are not for the faint of heart. Besides one minute needing to rip all of your clothes off and then freezing as the sweat dries, there is the dilemma of pajamas or no pajamas. If you wear them then you have to take them off frequently or they are soaking wet. If you don’t wear them then when you have visitors . . .

So I got sidelined by a hot flash, I have to go change my clothes.




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Today is International Women’s Day. A celebration of women’s economic, health and livelihood contributions or something like that. So Happy Women’s Day.

I am at that age where menopause is something that is becoming a fact of life. Unfortunately because my mother died in 1998 I can’t ask her questions about what to expect. Many of my friends have had hysterectomies so they aren’t going through it “naturally” so I can’t ask them either.  As usual I have done research on it but aside from a list of possible symptoms and the recommendation to eat things with soy they really haven’t been helpful.

This list copied from the A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia on the National Institute of Health website (link listed below):

Common symptoms of menopause include:

  • Menstrual periods that occur less often and eventually stop
  • Heart pounding or racing
  • Hot flashes, usually worst during the first 1 – 2 years
  • Night sweats
  • Skin flushing
  • Sleeping problems (insomnia)

Other symptoms of menopause may include:

  • Decreased interest in sex, possibly decreased response to sexual stimulation
  • Forgetfulness (in some women)
  • Headaches
  • Mood swings including irritability, depression, and anxiety
  • Urine leakage
  • Vaginal dryness and painful sexual intercourse
  • Vaginal infections
  • Joint aches and pains
  • Irregular heartbeat (palpitations)


Now I have had hot flashes for 15 years and night sweats since I was a kid so those are no big deal. I am probably the hottest person you will ever meet. I melt chocolate just by touching it. And I sleep a lot so in that way I am lucky, I also have a bunch of the other symptoms too. I can deal with most of them. Although the mood swings suck, there are days when I can’t stand myself let alone others. So, sorry about that in advance.


What I want to know is what to expect with my periods. Do they get lighter? Do they just gradually taper off or do they stay the same but become less frequent, more frequent, what happens? Well I guess we will find out slowly over time. Times like this it would be much easier if my mom were here to talk to.






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I haven’t written in a while, I haven’t had a lot to say, and what I did have to say was not very nice so . . . I decided not to say anything at all. I managed to piss off both of my sisters this month, a new record, not one I am very proud of, so I have been doing a lot of thinking. Regrouping my thoughts and trying to figure out what is going on with me.

I am solidly starting menopause. I still get my period but it is changing and I am changing. I have heard that menopause is adolescence in reverse, so now I get the bitchiness and mood swings and the uncontrollable anger. In a teenager or preteenager it can be chalked up to all of these raging hormones, in an adult I think it is a lack of raging hormones.

For most of my adult life I have had that one day where no matter what nothing and no one can be right, those days when I can’t even stand myself. They used to be fairly predictable, two days before my period I would be so cranky and angry, then my period would come and the relief was palpable. Now I have no idea when or how bad the crankiness will come, I do not want to be this way.

Plus my skin is going to hell, wrinkles and zits, what a great combination.  My birthday is coming up soon; I will be 46 years old. The research I have been doing says that menopause lasts anywhere from 2-10 years from the onset of “symptoms”, except I have been having hot flashes for 14 years already. I started getting hot flashes when I was 32 years old. I still get my period as regular as ever it’s just now there are days when I am pretty sure if something ever happened to me and they swabbed the drains of my shower . . .

Menopause is something all women go through and very few talk about. None of us want to be old enough to go through it; none of us want to have this adolescence in reverse. We all would love for it to be over, having your period is inconvenient, messy and means you can get pregnant. Not having it means you really are at least middle aged if not old. We want it both ways convenience and to not be old.

Nothing is ever completely easy or smooth, especially transitions. This is one transition that will be bumpy and messy and hopefully when we all make it out the other side we can all still be friends.

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