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I have hope

I have hope. Even as I sit here with tears running down my face I still have hope. I have to, there isn’t an alternative. Giving up hope means giving up, I am not quite ready to do that.

I will cry and feel sorry for myself for a little while, I will wallow in the pain that comes from being rejected. I will beat myself up and probably whine a lot. I will sit and stare off into space and just be for a while. I might eat some ice cream, although right now I feel more like throwing up.

I will question everyone “What is wrong with me? Why don’t they want me?” Usually people answer “Nothing, nothing is wrong with you.” Right now I don’t solve the problem they think they have.

Later I will start to put it past me. I will wipe my tears, I will quit wallowing in my misery, I will have the ice cream, then I will get on with the search. I will continue to work and hope, there isn’t any other option.

Definition of hope

#hope  #merriamwebster


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Happy May, so many fun things happen in May. There is May Day (May 1)

Hooray, Hooray it’s the First of May,

. . .outside begins today!

I guess I won’t say the whole saying, you never know who is reading.  😉


Mother’s Day is May 14, always a bittersweet day for me. My Mom has been gone for such a long time so that is the bitter, but my darling girls are doing such a great job as Mom’s and that is the sweet. Being a grandparent is by far the best thing ever.


It makes me really sad, the amount things my Mom has missed. A bunch of grandkids, now two handfuls of great-grandkids, weddings, graduations, life, so much life.  None of us know how many days we have in this life. Please try to enjoy something everyday. I know somedays it is very hard to do but please try.


The best thing about May is I will get to see everyone of my girls this month. The military is cooperating so far, so we have a bit of ability to plan visits! Let us all hope that things settle down so that we can keep them all.


In the mean time I am ever so grateful for modern technology. I can get text messages, phone calls and even video calls from my girls frequently. Things my Mom would have used frequently, I am sure. I talked to my Mom everyday. It has been almost 19 years and I still miss picking up the phone to talk to her.


Hug your kids and enjoy this very month.

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I have been having some really wicked hot flashes. They are noticeable during the day but at night! Holy man it is awful. I have timed them and they come about every 50 minutes. These are not a quick flash and ta-da good to go. No these are full on soaking wet, last a couple minutes hot flashes.

I have done some research and there really isn’t much that can be done. According to the research I can look forward to enjoying this lovely change to my sleeping habits for 4-5 years. Doesn’t that just sound like a fun time to you? Yeah I am just jumping for joy over this turn of events.

I have read that there are drugs you can take but the side effects sound way worse than the hot flashes. I have looked at can trigger them. Coffee, smoking, alcohol, being black, and being overweight make you more susceptible to hot flashes. I don’t drink coffee ever, I rarely drink alcohol anymore, I have never smoked nor been black, that leaves being overweight. I am that but I know thin people who have hot flashes, so I think that is just another way to hammer at a woman’s weight.

Hot flashes are a great way to lose water weight! I know that I can lose more than 2 pounds a night just in sweat. I can’t imagine poor hubby having to sleep next to the pool that is my side of the bed. Poor guy.

Hot flashes are not for the faint of heart. Besides one minute needing to rip all of your clothes off and then freezing as the sweat dries, there is the dilemma of pajamas or no pajamas. If you wear them then you have to take them off frequently or they are soaking wet. If you don’t wear them then when you have visitors . . .

So I got sidelined by a hot flash, I have to go change my clothes.



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Have you ever worked for a company that was so frightened by one mishap that they went overboard in their security? I worked for a company where an idiot was caught with child porn. Now he was not caught on the premises with it but there was a possibility that he checked his personal email on one of the company computers.

Because of this one person’s stupidity the company reacted by restricting the internet for everyone.  I understand the fear this engendered, the authorities could have seized the servers of the company and that would have been a major hardship because of the loss of data.

Here is the problem with restricting the internet and adding terms that people can’t use. There was a potential customer whose name is Dick. We could not email him because that is was a restricted word. I had to beg the IT people to let email to and from him through. Seriously, I wish I was kidding about it.

The company was so fearful about what was being looked at that it restricted blogs. There is a lot of good marketing and sales information to be gleaned from blogs, but if I wanted to see any of it I had to request permission from the IT person.

The company was so fearful that if I went to a website that was unrated I had to ask permission to see it. So looking at small companies who were often the bread and butter of my company was a slow and cumbersome process.

I understand the fear that one person can cause, because of one person’s stupidity it made not just my job hard to do it made the whole company shrink. Instead of making the company a safer place it made peoples jobs more cumbersome, less nimble, and very frustrating. It fed an already unhappy workforce into even more malaise.

There are better ways to protect your company. There are better ways to tell your employees that hey there was one stupid person but we still trust you. Instead the company did the exact opposite.

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Sometimes life comes along and knocks you off your feet. You are moving along not really paying attention and WHAMMO! Life hits you like a linebacker stopping the play at the line of scrimmage. These completely unexpected events are, even if you fumble the ball, recoverable.

All great strides in human history have come with major disruptions. An asteroid or some other cataclysmic event caused the extinction of dinosaurs and lead to mammals becoming dominant.  The rise of Homo-sapiens lead to the downfall of Neanderthals and the invention of the printing press changed all of our lives for the better. **

You are moving along with your life and out of the blue a major disruption occurs. This disruption can be the loss of a job, the diagnosis of a disease, the death of a loved one, the birth of a loved one; it could even be the getting of a new job or promotion. It doesn’t really matter what the disruption is what matters is how you react to the disruption.

You can fumble the ball but if you scramble to get it back or on the next play break away for a touchdown or even just a run of a few feet you have not let the fumble ruin your game. Life is that way too. When the initial disruption happens you can drop and cry “Why!?! Why me?!!” For about 15 minutes, then you need to get up and see how you can use this disruption to your advantage.

The same thing goes for business. Everyday someone is trying to disrupt your business. They bring out a new game changing product. They take your product and make it better or obsolete. What you need to do is figure out how this disrupting force can make your products, your service, you better.  How are you going to react to the disruptive force?

Violent change is everywhere.  Very rarely does something good like the Grand Canyon come from slow gradual change. Most of the time the slow gradual change leads to the erosion of your brand and no one wants that! So embrace the disruption, see where it leads.

** Strictly my opinion.

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I am trying to become more knowledgeable about the field I work in. Every time I change jobs I seem to change industries. I have knowledge about a lot of areas. If you look at it in terms of digging a hole I have a very large area of topsoil knowledge, about half of that knowledge goes down a couple of inches and half of that again goes down a foot or so. I would like to take my knowledge of the industry I currently work in down below the frost line.

Now in some places the frost line isn’t very deep, in fact I may have lost a bunch of you reading this because you don’t know what a frost line is. The frost line is how deep into the earth the dirt freezes. It can be mere inches into the many, many feet. Where I am from the frost line is very deep, usually more than 6 feet deep.

What I am saying is I would like to get a much deeper knowledge of the industry. Luckily I get a considerable number of periodicals (magazines, newspapers, even newsletters) sent to me because my predecessor signed up for everything. I have been remiss in actually taking the time to read them.

So one of my goals is to take fifteen minutes every work day and read one of the periodicals. It is a small goal, one that I am pretty sure I can carve out of my day. It is a huge goal because I think gaining this knowledge will help me help my customers immensely.  My plan is in small increments to increase the size of the hole and the depth.

There is so much to learn and so little time to do it. I will let you know how the learning is going. Let me know in the comments below what you are doing to increase your knowledge base.

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It has been one of those days. I am making my calls, trying to improve your business life and Wham-mo! someone is really rude to me on the phone. It can really throw your whole game off.

Everyone has a bad day. I know having a sales person call you can be a hassle and a time waster. I know that often you have an incumbent vendor and moving your business can be a hassle. But you do not have to be rude to me to get me to go away.

Here is my list of 10 things to remember when you are rude to salespeople on the phone!

  1. We are a people with feelings. And sometimes they get hurt. Not often but sometimes.
  2. We talk for a living so if you are rude to us we will tell people
  3. We are consumers – I have a list of products/companies I will not buy from because the purchasing person was so rude to me.
  4. We are just trying to help you do your business better. No really we are not trying to sell you snake oil. We truly believe we have a better product or service than what you currently have.
  5. It isn’t easy picking up the phone and making a cold call. Please do not make it harder.
  6. It’s ok to say no you just don’t have to be rude about it.
  7. We are not psychic, yelling at us and insulting a person because they called you and interrupted you is not nice. Remember #2.
  8. I am doing my job when I call you. One of the ways I get my message out is calling, I leave messages too. If you don’t want me calling answer the phone and tell me no.
  9. Just because your title says purchasing or anything other than sales, you are in sales. Everyone who works at your company is in sales, EVERYONE. See #2.
  10. I will call you back just to piss you off . . . and because I have a great product you might have been having a bad day.

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