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I was going to write this sooner but other ideas got in the way.  It is about what happens when your sailer, soldier, airmen or marine comes home from deployment.  Now I can only write about it from the parent’s perspective and this has been my perspective, others will feel and see things differently. 

As much as you want to hug them and hold them and just plain look at them, you can’t.  You need to make sure you give them plenty of space.  They are going to feel a little overwhelmed at points, when that happens you need to back off and leave them alone to sort it out.  I know that is the last thing in the world you want to do, after all you just got them back and in our case we only had a limited amount of time to see them, but you really do have too.  I know you want to see them every minute of the day, I know you want to know everything they did but remember they are adults and they need their space. 

Often they are adjusting to a lot more space and being alone for the first time in months.  Often they are adjusting to new sounds, new smells, or even the lack of sounds and smells.  It makes a huge difference.   It will take time.  How much time really depends on the person.  It depends on what they have been doing, on what was done to them, on who they are.  Remember that you love them and let them know that often.  Get them help if they need it.  Listen if they want to talk, just sit there in silence if they don’t and be willing to walk away when they need you too.

Every sailor, soldier, airmen and marine is different.  This is what I have learned.

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Life has a way of punching you in the nose and sometimes you just have to stand there staring in disbelief, with the blood running down your face for all the world to see.  That happened to me this week.  I am still reeling from it. 

It was such a great week, Navy Girl came home, I had a job interview, I got to spend lots of time with my girls and hubby for the first time in years, life was good.  Then I got the email . . . thanks but no thanks, don’t call us we won’t call you.  I am still feeling very battered.

But I will survive this just like I have survived others.  I spent one day crying and am now at that point of trying to fill my time with other things.  Telling myself that it will be ok, it is just a bloody nose.  Having my family and friends tell me that it is their loss, and I want to believe that so much!  I wanted this job something fierce!  It was not to be.   Something great is going to come along, I just know it.  I have faith, I have too.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Merry Christmas everyone, I hope the day and the season are everything you want it to be.  I have always been a morning person, usually one of those annoying chipper ones, and as I get older that hasn’t changed.  One of the things I miss about having little kids is our Christmas traditions. 

When I was growing up the rule was you could not go into the livingroom where the presents from santa were until after Mom and Dad had their coffee.  It was so hard not peek, it was so hard not to touch, it was so hard not to know!  When I became a parent we had a similar rule, of course no coffee was involved because I am allergic to the stuff, but we instituted a similar rule.  No one could go into the livingroom where the presents were until mom and dad were up and had a coffee equivalent.  Ah to torture the next generation with the wait.  Nothing like it.

As the girls got older, it became more along the lines of me waking them up.  So the torture was returned, I had to wait until they got up or until I couldn’t stand it any longer.  *sigh* Now it is just enough to be together.  We still try to get each other the perfect gift, but now for me the perfect gift is their time.  Soon they will have families of their own and traveling for Christmas will be nearly impossible.  I will not expect them too.  I want them to start their own traditions.  Or even carry on the ones we have started, with their own families.  I look forward to seeing them, while I look back with happy memories and enjoy now as it is happening.

I hope you all have happy days that will make happy memories.

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I’m dreaming of a white christmas, just like the ones I used to know, where the tree tops glisten and children listen to hear sleigh bells in the snow ♪ ♫  – Irving Berlin.

I have had that song running through my head for days.  It is one of my favorites this time of year.  I know that at my house that is not a problem, and where we are today that is a possibility.  I have been thoroughly enjoying this week.  It is going slowly and speeding by so quickly at the same time.  Because of work schedules we have already celebrated Christmas.  My kids and hubby are so awesome!  I hope your family is awesome too. 

This is my favorite time of the year; people are so much nicer to each other.  Generosity is the name of the game, people donating time and money; it is just “the most wonderful time of the year” ♪ ♫ – Edward Pola.  Sorry I just have all of these great songs running through my head.  And they have to go somewhere.  I can’t sing, can’t carry a tune in a bucket, so be happy that all the songs are coming out on the screen and not with actual sound. 

Navy Girl continues to adjust to being back on land, Army Girl has some big news coming up, Air Force Girl is working this week but we have been able to see her everyday, and hubby and I are getting to spend some quality time together.  What more can you ask for? 

Looks like it is time to work out, Merry Christmas to all, and happy thoughts for a happy day!

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In other news, I had a job interview yesterday, I think I did well.  I am really not sure.  It isn’t like the interview I had this fall that I was left thinking “what the hell happened” but it was quick.  It was a phone interview so it is hard to gage their reactions.  I hope it will be ok.  I have all of the qualifications they are looking for and I really want this.  I hope, I hope, I hope.

I found out yesterday that I aced my final for marketing management.  Pretty exciting, I was kind of disappointed in the class.  Now I know this is an overview class so that MBA students have an idea of what happens in the marketing process but really, I was bored.  It was pretty much everything I had taught myself already.  But now all the required courses are over and the ones specific to my major begin.  I am so going to enjoy the break I have and then I look forward to learning more. 

I am so excited to spend time with my beautiful daughters.  Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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What an amazing day!  So much news, so much to tell.  First and foremost, Navy Girl is home!  The ship arrived this morning with much fanfare, lots of cold cold wind and oh so many happy cheers.  In typical militarymommie family style she was one of the last people to leave the ship.  Not quite the last person out who has to turn off the lights but pretty close!  This is the first Christmas that all of us will be together.  I am so happy!

It was absolutely thrilling to see the ship come into view.  If it hadn’t been so could I probably would have been bawling like a baby!  As we watched the tug boats turn this huge floating city it just made you appreciate the technology and the hardwork that these young men and women put in everyday.  and then the wait began.  We waited, and waited, and waited . . . the ship came in at 0900, at 1200 Air Force Girl couldn’t wait any longer, she went to the car and fell soundly asleep.  Poor girl didn’t get much sleep today; I hope she is ok tonight as she works.  At 1345 I had to leave.  I had a job interview at 1430 today.  I will tell you about that in a bit.  Finally at 1425 Navy Girl was able to leave.  It was a long wait but oh so wonderful to see her.  Hubby and Army Girl were able to wait the whole time for her.  So typical of the military, hurry up and wait.  But oh so worth it in the end!

I love how no matter how long it has been since we have been together; we all just take up where we left off.  Happily teasing, happily planning, happily just being together.   I am sure we will have our moments as the week goes on, but for now we are all just so happy to be together.

I hope you are all with people who make you happy too!

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Seriously Yahoo! Again.  I was having problems with my address book in my yahoo account.  So I emailed their customer service.  It took them eight days to respond.  Eight days.  It is a good thing this problem worked itself out without their help.  Who in their right minds would think that eight days is a good response time?  They wonder why people are leaving their email service and their website in droves.  They wonder why their stock prices are plummeting; maybe they should look at their customer service.  If you don’t treat your customers like they matter they will return the favor by leaving. 

Seriously Yahoo!  Get a clue!

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