Archive for September, 2010

I am all I have. You are all you have. Others can help, but there’s only so far they can go. – Carolyn Hax
How is that for a powerful statement? I have said for a long time that no one can make you happy or sad; it is you who do that. People can do things that make you happy or sad but that is your reaction to what they did, not the action itself. When you let someone hurt you, you have given them that power.
There is an old saying that sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. That is a true and false statement. Often sticks and stones may break bones but words hurt worse than anything.
People can say very hurtful things, sometimes they are right on target and those words hurt so badly and more often than not they are way off target. When people make negative comments about you it usually reflects more of what they are thinking about themselves than what they think about you. Here is a big secret very few people tell you, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BELIEVE OR ACCEPT WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT YOU. Seriously, I am not making that up. I never believe anything negative anyone says about me. I also take most of the positives with a grain of salt.
Be a realist when it comes to who you are. Stop and think, is what that person saying true? If it is fix it, if it isn’t reject it. It IS that simple. Don’t give away your power, only you can make yourself happy. The rest of us are just accessories.

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“Destiny has two ways of crushing us–
by refusing our wishes and by fulfilling them.” – Henri-Frederic Amiel

When I saw this quote I thought how true. Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. How often do you get something you really wanted and then are very disappointed? But what is life without wishes? If we don’t wish for things and strive for things what is the point of life? We want to get better, smarter, and thinner, make more money, but sometimes you have to ask why? Get better than whom? Get smarter in what? How thin is thin enough? How much money is enough and what are you going to do with it?
Are wishes goals? Or are goals wishes? I don’t know. I just can’t see giving up either one. What do you think?
I gave myself a birthday present. I joined a gym. It is actually run by the park district here in Gpa’s town. It has lots of good machines and classes. By joining I can also use the pool and I have a personal trainer. We met today for the first time. She showed me how to use the machines and we will start developing a program on Friday. My plan is to be there 6 days a week. At least until I get a job. Then I will reevaluate what times I will be there. I feel so much better when I work out. I know this will be a good thing. What makes you feel better?

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Friday was my birthday. Saturday was Gpa’s. It was a busy weekend. Hubby came down to visit me/us. He surprised me by taking a half day of vacation and getting here 4+ hours earlier than I was expecting him. I miss him so very much. I sleep so much better when he is near me. It will be two weeks before I see him again. Army Girl will be coming down the next time I think. I haven’t seen her since the beginning of the month but I do get to talk to her frequently. I talked to Air Force Girl on Skype on Friday and Navy Girl called me from her ship. I miss them all so much. All in all it was a good birthday weekend.
I am taking this managerial finance class; it is totally kicking my butt. I understand the math but the rest of it just . . . *sigh* I don’t know. I am half way through the class so hopefully it will click soon. Right now the whole class just makes me tired.
My computer got some ugly virus. It was throwing up all over the place. I was finally able to get it cleaned up by applying liberal doses of chicken soup. Many hours and frequent cleanings later I finally got it wiped. I hope. My computer seems to be working much better. Make sure you clean your computer frequently.
I found this Terri Libenson comic at the link below. It is so true of so many women I know.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!


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So I called Yahoo!  To get some help, you can’t actually call their customer care, you have to email them so I called their billing department.  Well as you can see I am getting lots of help that way.  In fact when I did call them they hung up on me.  I am sure that is just the type of customer care we all want to receive.  NOT!!!!

The representative acknowledged that it is their problem, something they are doing wrong and yet you can’t talk to customer service.  What the F##k!

My latest attempt to get this fixed.

I have sent this problem to you 4 times.  A German company has hijacked my email.  I need this fixed.  I do not speak German, I do not read German.  Please do not send this to some foreign desk.   I have pasted a copy of your previous responses below.  Please know I have posted your response to my blog and to Twitter because it is so absurd.  Please fix this problem.  I need this email address. 

If you email me I can reply and you will be able to see the problem.


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In order to assist you further, please visit the following link:
Upon accessing this page, please select the appropriate geographical area you are requesting assistance for.

After selecting the desired county, you will be redirected to their homepage.

You can then click the property you are experiencing difficulty with, such as Finance or Answers, and then select “Help” within the context of the page.

We apologize for any inconvenience this may have caused you.

Thank you again for contacting Yahoo! Customer Care.


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It’s a good day to be a wombat.  I read that headline and just liked it.  I have included a link to the story at the end of the blog.  Now I really don’t plan on talking about wombats today, but it is a good opening line isn’t it?  It is a good day to be ___________.   How will you fill in this blank? 

I find that it is always a good day to be me.  I have my ups and my downs, my two steps forwards and one step back, my successes and my failures and I wouldn’t change anything that has happened.  It is a good day to be _____________?

Happy thoughts for a happy day!


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I was reading an article on line today and came across this quote:
“With all the hatred in this world, in this good world, let us be kind to one another,” Walter Breuning world’s oldest man (114)
I thought what a good idea.  Please pass it on.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Skype is such a wonderful thing. Last night Gpa and I were able to see and talk to Air Force Girl. I am pretty sure she cried afterward. I know that she has been very home sick. We miss her too. When Army Girl was in Iraq we would use Skype to talk. I could see her but I did not have a camera on my computer so she could just hear me.  Unfortunately we cannot talk to Navy Girl that way, I wish we could it would make things easier for all of us.  I highly recommend getting Skype if you have loved ones somewhere else.
Army Girl will be seeing Air Force Girl in about a month. Army Girl is running in the Army 10 mile in Washington DC. So Air Force Girl will get to spend a few days with her. It will be good for both of them. I wish I could go cheer her on, but funds are low. She knows we will be cheering her on in our hearts.
I am just so impressed that Army Girl is going to run 10 miles. I wish I could run, besides the bum knee I run like I am pulling a truck. I just don’t have that stride. I admire people who can; the feeling has to be amazing.
What is one thing you wish you could do? What are you doing about it? I wish I could run, so I walk long distances. It isn’t the same but it is as close as I will get. For now.
Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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I went for a walk this morning; I am trying to explore Gpa’s town one footstep at a time. I walked all the way to the end of the road he lives on and then over to the dam. It was a beautiful morning to walk, temps in the low 60’s and slightly overcast. I walked across the dam stopping to look at the water along the way. On my way across I stopped to watch a train, it was a short one, I was thinking this would be a nice walk to take with Navy Girl. She has always been a train nut. When I first made it to the dam park I was the only one there, by the time I left there were quite a few people.

It is amazing how loud water going through the dam is. But it is very soothing too. As I was walking back across the river a second train went by. I was thinking how lucky I am. My sister M has made the cut for a promotion, I am so proud of her. My brother C has a job that is really cool and most of the time he can’t tell us about, I am so proud of him. My brother G is a manager for Hershey’s which is just to cool. My sister B has a neat job where she develops websites for people’s merchandise; I know I would like it. I don’t have any of those things, and yet I am very lucky. At 9:00 am on a Monday I was standing on a dam watching the water rush by and listening to the trains.

Each one of us is lucky in our own way. Sure I would love to be one of those people who have a job and a place to go, but right now I just have to accept the luck I have, and make the luck I want. In the mean time, I will enjoy the walk, the love of my family and keep working on the luck.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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what a week

It has been an interesting week.  Two doctors appointments with Gpa, Homework, a job interview, a new bed, and good news and bad from Navy Girl.

Gpa had an eye doctor appointment on Monday, it took forever!  An hour and a half, they must have been using really slow acting eye dilators.  He got a new prescription so we went to the evil empire to get them.  On Thursday he had an appointment with his cardiologist.  That one took two hours.  Lots of tests coming up and appointments, it is hell to be chronically ill.

Homework is homework.  Managerial finance these 8 weeks, already in week 3.  Time just keeps flying by.  I am actually understanding most of it, I guess if you make me do it multiple times for multiple classes it eventually sinks in.  The biggest thing is every problem is very involved.  No just a few steps and done, it takes many, many steps to get to the simple answer.  That’s why it takes 3 hours to do 20 questions on a test. 

I had the weirdest job interview on Friday.  I am still not sure what I was interviewing for.  I don’t know if it was for them, or for another company.  Hopefully something will come of it.  I don’t know.  When I got done with the interview I got in my car and I thought “What the hell just happened?”  I still don’t know.  I sent them a thank you letter, thanking them for the letting me get the feel for their hiring process.  I didn’t know what else to say.  I am still very bemused by the whole thing.

I got a new bed at Gpa’s.  We did a big switch.  B has been having some pretty severe back problems this week, Gpa needed a bed that you can raise up so he is not laying flat (it helps with his breathing) and I was sleeping in the twin bed from when I was a kid with the same mattress.   So Gpa got a new hospital bed, we can raise and lower the head of the bed and the feet too.  B got Gpa’s mattress because it used to be hers and the one she had bothered her back and I got that one.  So now I have a queen sized mattress to sleep on instead of the ancient twin.  It felt pretty good; I will let you know in a few days how I sleep. 

I got the following email from Navy Girl,
You’re not going to believe this…
…I got called the Reactor Officer’s office today. 
…He wants me to bake cookies.
…He’s arranged it with the wardroom galley to coordinate my watch schedule.
…Can you mail me vanilla extract…right now?!  It’s the only thing I’m going to have a hard time getting here.

 …I think…I’m in shock. 

Love and miss you,

 And then I got this one:

On a less exciting note…one of the guys I stand watch with lost his wife this week.  He’s 23 and a widower.  The news out of Virginia is that she was murdered.  How awful is that?  I can’t even imagine what he’s going through right now.  They sent him home on the soonest COD they could.  I don’t think he’s going to come back to us.  R Department is kind of in shock.  We’re taking up a collection for him; it’s all we can do, really.  But it’s hard to deal with that.

Your thoughts and prayers for this young man and all of Navy Girls Department would be gratefully appreciated.

Happy thoughts for a happy day.

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