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Choices we all have choices to make, often they are easy, like what should I wear today.  Ok for some people that can be a hard choice, they care too much what others think, but that is a whole other can of worms.   Often they are hard like do I spend the money to pursue what might be a job or what might just be another waste of time and money.  Then you have to make the hard choice and it is never easy.  On the one hand, it is the first real interest that has been shown, on the other we really need to fix the roof.  But a JOB!  Probably only a maybe.  It is so hard to make the right choice.  The “what ifs” have reared their ugly heads just complicating the matter.  We all have these choices to make.  Do we close one door and hope another opens?   Do we just say no and use this as motivation?  See there is interest out there, if one company is interested there has to be more right?  I certainly hope so, because this was my ultimate reply: 

It is with deep regret that I must decline your offer of an interview at this time.  I appreciate your taking the time to review my application.  I accept your offer to keep my resume on file, if you have need of my services please do not hesitate to call upon me. 

Sincerely,

It was a very hard choice.  I think ultimately it will be the right choice, but it still sucked to make it. 

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

  People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

–Maya Angelou,
American writer

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We all have our moments when we don’t want to do something that we know we really should.  Take exercise, we all know we should but very few of us actually want to.  Here’s the thing, we may not want to do it but once we get started and actually do it we feel pretty good.  All righteous and woo hoo! I did and so should you, right now.  But we also need to do it at our own pace.  Having someone be a cheerleader is good, having someone be a nag is not.  So where do you set the line?  How do you know when you have crossed it?  We all have our own pace of doing things.  I like to do things like homework early but I also like to exercise early and get it out of the way.   Since I lost my job my early is getting later in the day for some things.  Probably not a good thing but I get things done at my pace. 

We have to set our own pace, especially when it comes to exercise.  I have found that if I start exercising and it hurts a lot, I probably won’t do it again.  Not a good thing.  Most people are like that, if it feels good they will do it again, if it doesn’t feel good they won’t.  There is nothing wrong with starting slowly and working your way up to things.  I started swimming that way.  I don’t like to put my face in the water, it makes me feel all panicky and scared, so I don’t.  It is as simple as that, I do the back stroke.  Doing the back stroke has added benefits besides not sticking my face in the water, everything I do, is hunched forward, doing the back stroke pulls everything back.  When I started swimming I started with one length of the pool.  I thought I was going to die!  25 yards seems like a long way!  I got in at the deep end and swam to the shallow end, I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to get out of the pool from the deep end.  My arms were tired, my heart was racing, and I felt awesome!  So the next time I went swimming I did it again.  I started adding lengths and pretty soon it became laps and now I swim a mile.  That is 35 laps or 70 lengths of the pool.  And it feels awesome!  Who knows maybe someday I will stick my face in the water.  You never know what you can do until you try it.

On that note, I am going to go walk to Curves.  Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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a happy place

My former Mother-in-law has been afflicted by Alzheimer’s disease.  It is a devastating thing.  This once vibrant, smart woman has steadily lost her memories.  It is heart breaking to see.  Before all of this happened she had a place that was all her own.  It was a house that was located next to the business she and her husband owned.  This was her place, she decorated it how she wanted it, furnished how she wanted it, I think it was her happy place.  My former MIL kept her dolls there and pictures, lots of pictures.  They made her happy. 

We all need our own happy place.  Most of us can’t afford a whole house in which to keep it but we can all keep a happy place in our hearts.    We can keep the pictures and memories that make us happy.  We all have those moments when we wonder “why do we keep doing this?”  Why do we keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep going on this journey we call life.  When this happens it helps having a happy place to go to, whether that is a physical place like a house, or a room, or a corner, or even just a happy place in your head having a happy place will help to re-center you.  I have a happy place; I have been using it a lot lately.  Do you have one?

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Air force girl

Air Force Girl has made it to her base.  She has checked in and has a place to sleep.  I hope she takes advantage of everything they throw at her.  She is an amazing young woman now.  I am so proud of her.  I miss her a lot.  She is beginning a new life, one that we are not really a part of.  Navy Girl has a life like that, we can only know bits and pieces of what she does, and the same is true for Air Force Girl.  Soon Army Girl will be off and having a life like theirs too. 

Some days I am very jealous, they are young and have the whole world ahead of them.  I just want them all to be happy and successful. 

Happy thoughts for a happy day

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We packed up Air Force Girl’s car today.  Okay Air Force Girl and Hubby packed up Navy Girl’s car, but either way Air Force Girl is packed and ready to go.  I am not ready.  Hubby and Air Force Girl are going for a motorcycle ride right now, then we will meet for a fish fry and in the morning the journey begins.  It has been a very quick visit.  She has had to work most of the week days and most nights she went to hang with friends so I would say cumulative time WE have seen her for a day maybe two tops.  I want the girls to have fun when they are here but I would like them to have some of it with me!

I am so going to miss her.  I miss all of my girls when I am not with them.  She has been packing since she got home but packing up the car has made it real.  Man there are times when I hate reality!  I love you my darlings.  Be safe, be smart, be home soon. 

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Hubby and I have been enjoying Air Force Girls visit home.  Well what little we have been able to see her.  She has been doing RAP (recruiter assistance program) so has had to go into the office almost every day except the weekend.  And most evenings she has been out and about with her friends.  I really don’t blame her; I would be doing that too.  It is hard to believe in a couple of days she will be on her way to her first station.  I am not really ready for her to drive across the country by herself.  I am pretty sure she can’t be old enough.  I know I am not old enough so how can she be? 

The next few weeks are going to be so busy!  I have a ton of work to do in the managerial accounting class I am taking.  I have a 3 page case study due on Sunday and a test.  I have to have both of them done by Friday night.  We are going to see Gpa and B, J and A this weekend.  Air Force Girl will be leaving from Gpa’s house.  Then the following week I have school stuff and Army Girl and I have to go through things to get ready for the garage sale that BFF and I are having as a fund raiser for the Susan G. Komen 3-day for the cure.  Plus I have to keep training.  I have not walked in forever.  Ok since Saturday when hubby and I did 17 miles.  It keeps raining and I have some much work to do.  Excuses, excuses, excuses, I know!  Please donate if you haven’t already http://www.the3day.org team BFF-twin cities.  Our garage sale is going to be the same weekend as LOGJAM.  We are bartending on Friday from 11-4, Saturday from 7:30 – close, and Sunday from 3:30 – 8.  We get $0.05 a can for every can of beer we sell so please come and drink a lot.  But please do it responsibly with a DD. 

Ok that paragraph kinda veered off into other tangents didn’t it? Anyway, we are busy, busy, busy and things just keep moving faster and faster.  I wish my job search was going as well.  I applied at two places today and contacted a couple of recruiters, plus there are a few more I would like to get out yet this week.  Hopefully someone will bite soon. 

Did I mention monsoon season has started here?  We have gotten more rain.  I don’t think we will be in a drought for much longer.  It is pretty wet when you have made up a deficit of 9 inches in one season.  I am pretty sure that qualifies for a monsoon season.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Well, since the issue has met an unexpected resolution in the last 12 hours, I suppose posting it (minus names) would be just fine.

On that note, have I got a story for you!

A couple of months back, ET1 V, EM2 R, and I came to an unfortunate conclusion: we are running out of rack space.  We had five more R girls slated to arrive on ship in the near future, and only 1 open rack.  So we told Senior that we needed to move the E types that were living in Aft Berthing (where I live) to somewhere more appropriate to make room for our women.  She blew us off, unwilling to make the political waves that kicking the 8 girls out would undoubtedly cause.  “We’ll deal with that when they get here.” 

Famous last words.

Two female R-bound sailors stepped off a COD late yesterday afternoon.  We had not been warned that they would be arriving, and we still only had 1 open rack.  Commence the massive flail.

By the time I became aware of the situation (I was on watch when they arrived), we were already hot-racking.  That’s right.  I said it.  Hot-racking on a ship, in a female berthing.  One of the new girls got the open rack, obviously, but the other…well, MM2 M was kind enough to lend her rack to our newly deployed (and highly exhausted) shipmate.  Unfortunately, when M ’s division unexpectedly gave her a few hours to “get some sleep”, she had nowhere to go.  So…I lent her my rack, as I was now in the thick of the arguments, political grandstanding, and logistics nightmare Senior had gotten us into.  Because it was a nightmare.

The girls didn’t want to go.  Our Master Chief said they were going.  Their Chiefs said, “Don’t move a thing.”  We said, “We’re hot-racking, fix this.”  Senior got all up in my face, and I had to bite my tongue to keep from laughing at her.  It’s kinda funny when you know you don’t deserve her wrath and she’s looking for a target and you just happen to walk into something you don’t know is occurring.  Apparently, the real story behind all the arguments is this: a year ago when they converted this berthing from a male AIMD berthing to a female berthing, there was an agreement that the berthing would be a R/E overflow berthing, but ultimately it would be owned by R.  Recent fact: Ship’s R Department has a ridiculous female percentage compared to other ships.  No one anticipated this as a possibility and now that we actually need all of our racks, the E Department is pissed.  Fortunately/unfortunately (depending on how you look at it, but that’s another email for another day), R is winning this argument.  On the flip side of that…we have to move 8 very unwilling women to a berthing they don’t want to go to.

And they have to be gone by Monday…because we’re getting 2 more females on the late COD.

So, that’s the story of how the girl who accused me off assault is getting removed from my berthing because, if you recall, she’s. not. R.

Happy Sunday!

Love and miss you tons,

-FTOD

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