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I received some potentially devastating news yesterday.  First let me state that everyone is ok.  No one is sick or injured.  As many of you know Hubby and I have been in some financial trouble for a while.  We have managed to hang on and are slowly getting on our feet again.  We have managed to not declare bankruptcy by the skin of our teeth.  Neither of us were very good money managers and we made some really stupid decisions.  But we have learned from our mistakes and have emerged stronger as a couple and as money managers.  That being said, we are still very financially fragile.  I am talking about this because I applied for a student loan so I can continue working on my MBA.  I was turned down.  So I have one more class after this one on last year’s financial aid and then I will be taking some time off, I have run out of money.  Please let this be clear, I am not asking you for money, so do not offer, I will not accept it.

 I am telling my story so that people can learn about the evils of credit cards and not learning how to manage money.  It has been a hard lesson to learn.  I was one of those parents who hated saying no to their kids.  I have had to for so much of their lives that when I did get two nickels I spent three.  Buy now pay later, great concept isn’t it?  Instant gratification, we all want it and we want it now!  But later catches up with you and then you are left in a worse situation than if you had said no.  Now Hubby and I pay as we go.  If we don’t have the money we don’t do it or buy it. 

Our poor choices have come back to haunt us.  I will go back and finish my degree someday, just not now.  I will finish this class and the next; working to keep my grade point average at the 4.0 it is now.   Education is a gift, I know that now . . . actually it was really devastating news.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Dear Future Employer,

You should hire me because I am a woman not despite being a woman.  I may not have the same resume as a man but guess what?  I am not a man.  I have made choices that were for the greater good of my family, what makes you think I won’t make those same types of decisions for your company?  When I needed marketable job skills I took my kids and got a degree in engineering.  Did you?  Could you?  I made a choice to raise my children in a small town.  Did I know it would derail my career?  Yes and no.  Was it the best decision for my family?  Unequivocally yes. 

I have had many jobs over the last few years, CAD Designer, Day Care Operator, Bank Teller, Grocery Store Clerk, School Bus Driver, PartyLite Consultant, and Marketing Analyst.   Each one has taught me something useful about life and working with others.  When I needed to learn how to do the job I sought out the most knowledgeable people I could find.  I researched it on the internet and I picked up the phone and called people.  We can’t all have a straight career path and when you are a woman it tends to be pretty crooked with a lot of side branches. 

I have the organizational skills of a mother.  I was able to keep up with the schedules of three kids, a husband, and myself while I had a broken leg.  Can you keep everyone organized while immobilized?  When I need the answer I am not afraid to call the president of a company to compliment, complain, or cajole.  Can you?  I can motivate you to do what needs to be done all while making you think it was your own idea.  I am the master of the soft sell, but not today.  Today you should hire me.   You won’t regret it.

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I have a final next Sunday so this will probably be it for the week.  I need to apply for some jobs and study for my test.  Those are the priorities this week.  And sometimes we have to say sorry, my priorities have to take precedence over yours.  This will be one of those weeks. 

Hubby and I walked almost 7 miles today.  We walked through the cemetery and I was struck by some interesting thoughts.  First you can tell which way the wind usually blows from.  Along the edge of the cemetery is a slight ridge of long grass and rocks, caught along this barrier are plastic and silk flowers, wreaths, ribbons and other things that have been left on the graves.  Cemeteries are such peaceful places, I can understand why survivors would want go there.  But I have no desire to be buried there.  Since the beginning of time cemeteries have been about a place for the living to go to remember the dead and for the dead to be preserved so that they will be remembered.  I really have little desire to be remembered that way.  I would like to be remembered by the people who know me with smiles and a beer, immortality is just not a priority.  Although the more I write the more that gets sent out into the ether, so the more that will be known about me.  Ahhh the old catch-22.  Have you ever actually read that book?  I have, it is rather odd.  Poor old Major Major.  Read it and let me know what you think or thought. 

It was a rather busy day at the cemetery today.  I would imagine that as we get closer to Memorial Day it will steadily get busier.  Memorial Day is one of those sad/happy holidays.  Sad because we are all remembering those we have lost and happy because many/most people have the day off.  It is usually cold and rainy here but we have been having such unseasonably warm weather that when it acts normal we all whine.  It is 68 and around here it usually 50ish and we are happy.  So when it is 50ish this year we whine and complain.  No pleasing us is there?  I am worried about what it will be like in August if it is this warm already.  Hubby said it will probably be 50’s.  We shall see won’t we?  We can control a lot of stuff but the weather is not one of them. 

I need to go wash and cut up some potatoes.  I am going to chunk them and dip them in some olive oil and some spices and bake them in the oven.  Mmmmm we will have them with some grilled pork chops and a vegetable of some sort. 

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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Thou shalt not kill.  Probably one of the more important commandments don’t you think?  When I was growing up I went to Catholic school and we covered this one pretty thoroughly, and one of the points that has really stuck with me is that even wishing someone dead is a stain on your soul.  It was considered a mortal sin, and a few Hail Mary’s and some Our Father’s could not fix it.  Wishing someone dead could keep you out of heaven.  I bring this up because a few months ago I got several e-mails wishing our current president dead, now there is a group on Facebook dedicated to this email.  It makes me sad that someone would join a group that is so evil.  I believe wishing someone would die is the most awful thing you can do next to actually killing someone. 

I understand that lots of people do not like his politics.  That is fine, I would object to this group no matter what president it was targeting.  Wishing that a president would die is so evil it makes me almost speechless.  To wish such a tragedy on this person, his family and our country is just evil.  I don’t know if I can keep being friends with people who condone this.  I have a lot to think about. 

There will be arguments that this is just a joke, but it’s not.  People are wishing harm to this man, his family and our country.  And that is just wrong.  Jesus said “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  With that in mind I wish you all peace and a long happy life.

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My cousin is in a band called the Doc Marshalls.  I have added the link to his bands website to my home page if you want to check them out.  I mention this for several reasons.  One is his band is touring Europe in the not too distant future.  How cool is that?  Another is because he had a goal in mind and went for it.  He has worked very hard to get where he is, he has done what it takes to get this far.  I think often we aren’t willing to do what it takes to get where we want to go.  I know I fall in that category.  We have a goal and then we realize it is going to be hard and take a lot of sacrifice and we settle. 

Have you settled for things in life rather than go for it?  There are lots of excuses that we use, it’s too hard, I have kids, and I got scared.  I have used all of them.  I have mentioned before that for many years I was paralyzed by fear.  I still fight it all the time.  Today I am going to follow up on those positions I applied for last week.  I am feeling fear, kinda nauseous and very fearful.  But I can do this.  I will do this. 

What are you afraid of?  What are you going to do about it?  Let me know.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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“Take time to stop and smell the roses” is one of those clichés that are trotted out whenever someone is perceived to be over doing things.  It is one of those clichés that when someone says it to you, you just want to reach out and punch them.  The person saying it generally has no real idea what your life is like and what you are trying to accomplish, so they should just shut up.  But and this is a very big but, sometimes you really should.  Now I am not saying to literally stop and smell the roses, first of all around here, they aren’t even thinking of being buds let alone full out roses, and secondly, daffodils which are up make me sneeze, so no flower sniffing here.  But I digress, big surprise, I know.

I was walking into the library today and Army Girl was returning from her run when we met up.  She is just getting back into the swing of things from rolling her ankle and she was feeling a little sick.  We just waited there on the sidewalk and she drank some water and I just relaxed for a few minutes.  The sick feeling passed and she was able to walk on home and I was able to continue on to the library.  We took time to just let the feeling pass rather than pushing on through.  I felt better for it.  Shortly before I met up with Army Girl a train had passed and as I walking it was parked on the tracks.  The engine was detached from the train and had gone into one of the factories and as I walked up the engine came out of the factory and back to the train.  I stopped to watch it; did you know that the engine actually runs into the train to attach it?  I have heard the collisions but have never really seen it happen.  I was surprised at the speed at which the train hit.  I saw something really neat because I stopped to watch.  I took the time.  How often do you pass up seeing something neat because you are in a hurry? 

There are very few things that can’t wait a couple minutes while you take that time to smell the roses.  Now I am not going to tell you to stop and smell them because I don’t want you to punch me, but I am going to, I hope you join me.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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My new hero is Dr. Gay Culverhouse.  Her family owned the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and she is fighting to get older players help.   Many of these older players are suffering from various forms of dementia due to repeated concussions.  I had multiple concussions as a child and I think it does affect my memory.  That is one of my reasons for her to be my hero.  Here is the other, she is terminally ill with blood cancer and has been told she has less than 6 months to live.  She is spending that time trying to help others who can’t help themselves. 

I just watched a segment on her that was on ESPN.  She said she had talked to her priest because as she put it “she has never died before.”  She wanted to know what she should be doing.  And her priest said something very profound.  He said “live until you die.”  Don’t just sit and mope and wait for it to happen, get off your butt and do things, hopefully good things, until you die.  Make a difference; as far as we know we only get one go around here, so MAKE A DIFFERENCE!  Life is an amazing gift, treat it like one.

Happy thoughts for a happy day!

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